If your intimate relationship is facing difficulty then the counselling room
can be a useful space to overcome the blocks to communication you are
experiencing. It is a neutral arena and as a couple you can work together
with an impartial facilitator on ways forward. Invariably it will involve
both parties looking at what they each bring to the relationship and to the
'problem'. Each must be ready to make that journey and both must be ready
and willing to change in some way. Both must at some level wish the
relationship to continue - even though the way forward might seem impossible.
Here are some useful resources:
- Relationship Worksheet - three exercises to engage in to assess the value and meaning of your relationship Click here
- Relationship Assessment Tool - try this questionnaire to identify the strengths and gaps in your relationship Click Here
- Why staying together 'for the sake of the kids' can do more harm than good Click here to read article
- How you argue will determine the success or failure of your relationship - learn to recognise The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Read article
- Why his possessiveness and jealousy are a big sign of trouble not love - Understand his behaviour and motivation
- Does your partner threaten or humiliate you when they get angry - read this article to spot the warning signs of trouble
- Whats wrong with how we fall in love? Read article
- Fairy tales and nightmares - why Prince Charming won't change Click here to find out
- Why midlife can be a time for reflection and reappraisal of relaltionship needs Read article
- Seven reasons for having an affair Read article by Sadiyya Patel
And from 'Being Intimate' (see below)
- Relationship myths - are you sure you're having a real relationship with a real person? Click here to find out
- Anger - working with anger in relationships Click here to read chapter
These books will help you learn how to get better understanding in your relationship:
